I usually don’t get political on the blog, there are other blogs who fill that job, but this I read and couldn’t let go. This was sent from the Foster Parent Association of Washintgon. It’s an outrage.
April 6, 2010
“Foster Parents sometimes forget they are only 3 hots and a cot.”
The Honorable Kenneth L. Cowsert
SnohomishCounty Superior Court
THE VOICE OF THE CHILD
A twelve year old girl came to court in Everett last month. She has
been in foster care with the same foster parents for the past 3 1/2
years. This month she turns 13. Her mother was in court, too. The
girl came to tell the judge, Kenneth L. Cowsert, that she wanted to
stay with her foster parents. She has had very little visitation
with her mother over the past three years. The judge asked the
child’s attorney and the Assistant Attorney General for their
positions. The child’s attorney said that since the foster parents
were not able to adopt her, that probably returning her to the mother
was the best option. The attorney said that the girl did have a very
close relationship to the foster parents and that they were grieving
over her leaving.
“Foster Parents sometimes forget they are only 3 hots and a cot,” the
judge retorted. If they are grieving, he continued, they should not
let her see it, and if they don’t know how to behave they should come
into his court room and he would explain it to them or remove their
foster care license. The judge then told the girl that she could not
stay with her foster family. The girl then asked if she could stay a
few more weeks, since her birthday was coming up and she wanted to
have a party with her friends before she left town. The judge said
no, in fact the judge order that the girl go with her mother directly
from the court room, and that if she needed to pick up her clothes and
things, they could be sent later.
Afterwards, our court observer saw the mother leaving the courthouse
with the daughter. Neither looked or spoke to the other.
I can’t comment on the decision itself without knowing more about the
case, but the brusque way the judge treated that little girl was
uncalled for, brushing off not only her modest birthday party request
but also her need to say good-bye to the family with whom she had
stayed for the past 3 1/2 years. How horrible for the child it would
be if foster parents really did give nothing more than three hot meals
and a place to sleep. How horrible it would be to think that the
people you have lived so much of your life with were not grieving over
your departure. We are not inn keepers. We are foster parents.
Would anyone really want their child placed in a home that has no
love?
Judge Cowsert owes an apology to all foster parents. He first owes
an apology to that young girl.
Three Scurvy Dogs a Wee Lass (and their Mamas) 
That is complete and udder bullshit! If you think the same way as Judge Cowsert, you can't call yourself a foster parent, just a foster home. I am only comforted, knowing that judges are elected and hope he won't be re-elected.
That makes me mad!! Will you let us know if he follows up? Any petitions to sign?
Oh great, now I'm no better than a prison.and to think I was supposed to love and care for them.One of us is way off…I think it may be “judge Cowsert”. I use the term judge very loosley
This breaks my heart! These hurtful words harm the most vulnerable in our society and those who open their hearts and homes to care for them.