July 25, 2007

So we’re struggling with Carlos….his speech lady, “B” has left Harrison to take a job with the school district and Carlos is refusing to talk during speech therapy with the new therapist. He adores “B”, the whole drive over to Harrison today he kept saying he wanted to see her and that he was sad and missed her. I’m at a loss for what to do, I would give anything to be able to pay “B” myself to do private lessons! So I’ll keep taking Carlos to Harrison each Wednesday in hopes that he’ll start talking during his session. Arrghh, he’s such a sensitive and stubborn boy. He holds his speech therapists in such a high space…just the other day he was playing again with Levi and told Levi “ok, now you be El Chupacabra and I’ll be “B”!” For those of you who don’t know who El Chupacabra is…it’s kind of the Mexican version of the Big Foot but more lizard like (thank you Scooby Doo and the Monster of Mexico for that one).

Speaking of Carlos, he was so funny at the Gap today. He was looking at the pajamas and found some on clearance that had alligators on them and wanted them so badly. I told him to call Mama Dee (yeah, I passed the buck!) and ask if she would give him money to buy them and of course she said yes. We got each of the boys a new pair of jammies, Carlos picked them all out himself.

For the first time ever, we had Abby (one of our former softball players) come and watch Levi and Trey while I took Carlos to speech. It was great, although they didn’t nap. We hope to have her come hang out with the boys again real soon! It’s great for them and for us, too. Hell, we may even get to a movie sometime in the near future!

July 23, 2007

So today is a pretty big day for Dee and I….we get to become official “domestic partners” recognized by the state of Washington. We didn’t make the trek to Olympia, but we have filled out the paperwork and had it notarized and mailed in. It doesn’t give us too much more than what we have now, but it’s a step in the right direction. It’s all fairly legal and morbid but important all the same.
The rights granted to registered domestic partners include:
• Visitation rights at health care facilities.
• Ability to grant consent for health care for a partner who is not competent. Health care providers could disclose patient information to the patient’s partner.
• Automatic revocation of a domestic partner as the beneficiary for nonprobate assets if the partnership ends.
• Automatic revocation of power of attorney granted to a domestic partner if the partnership ends.
• Title and rights to cemetery plots and rights of interment.
• Right to control disposition of a deceased partner’s remains, including right to make anatomical gifts, authorize autopsies and consent to remove partner’s remains from a cemetery plot.
• Inheritance rights when the domestic partner dies without a will.
• Administration of an estate if the domestic partner dies without a will or if the named representative declines or is unable to serve.
• Making domestic partners beneficiaries of wrongful-death actions. Lawsuits for wrongful death could be brought on behalf of a surviving domestic partner.
• Requiring that information recorded on death certificates include domestic partnership status.

July 22, 2007









Yesterday I got to spend the day on my own without kids! It was great, my mom and I had a great time shopping and even met up with Holly for lunch out. Dee took the boys over to Patti and Jeannie’s to play in the shop. They had a blast, and jumped in puddles, went to the dump and worked on their tool bench.

Today we did our Sunday morning coffee…I love that. We met Margaret for coffee and Mary and Alice came too. I did my grocery shopping while the boys took their naps and then we headed out to the Eleven Winery for a concert with Holly. We made the boys “groupie” shirts and they were so happy. Carlos even said, “It’s Holly on my shirt, thank you so much mama” and he and Levi wore their shirts to bed with their pajama bottoms.
Here are some pics from the weekend….

July 20, 2007





Five years ago today…..Dee and I were in Las Vegas with 40 of our friends and family getting married at the Viva Las Vegas Chapel. I can’t believe it’s been 5 years, sometimes we can barely remember life before the boys! We can’t wait for another trip down there (without the little ones).
Dee’s gift to me is a day to myself…she’s going to take the boys to the shop to work with her and Patti and I am going to Silverdale to shop and hang out with my mom. It’ll be great to spend some time with her, without anyone needing something! The boys are going to have the best time at the shop, no worries there.

July 19, 2007



We had a new little one for the last two days, she’s a sweet girl for sure and we were helping out another foster parent. Trey is funny about her, kinda jealous of someone his age hanging around. He never seems to get upset with babies or older kids. I figure it’s only one day…he’ll get over it!

We are also in the process of making some visual aides for Levi for around the house. The first is a visual counter to count down the time before events happen (like how much time he has to help clean up before we leave the house). The next I have to make is the daily schedule so he knows what will be happening when. We’ll also make up a rewards chart for each boy and work on that. Seems like we have many battles now that it’s summertime and there is less structure.

Tomorrow will be BUSY…soccer practice for Levi and Carlos, Trey’s getting his 2 year old portraits taken and then we have an ice cream social for Terry (the placement person at DSHS who has also been very good to us!) at DSHS in the afternoon.

We are also talking about going on another walk in the Grand Forest tonight and having Levi and Carlos in a harness until we can be sure that they can prove they won’t run away. Trying to make a point here and show them the seriousness of it all. Carlos is still upset, and the poor guy even woke up last night scared and wanting mama….he gets it. Levi needs a little more talk about it before it sinks in.

Deep Thoughts
“You know what I like? Cake. Cake is delicious. Everyone should have some cake in their lives. The world would be a happier, more wonderful place if everyone had some cake. Some rainbow colored cake.”

July 18, 2007



So I had the BIGGEST scare today…the boys and I went on a walk with our friend, Lee and the little girl she watches, Natalie in the Grand Forest. Yeah, it was soaking wet but not too bad in all the trees and the boys were excited to put on their boots and raincoats and be outside. We had walked quite awhile and were headed back to the car when Levi and Carlos decided to run ahead…Trey tripped and I helped him back up, then went chasing after the boys. There was a fork in the trail and they were nowhere to be seen. I went one way, Lee went the other and I spent the next 10 minutes running through the forest looking for my kids. It scared the hell out of me, they were nowhere to be seen. When I finally caught up with Lee, she had found the boys in her direction. I was so happy to see them, but so mad they had run off. They knew it. We had to find the lady (who I met in the woods and was also looking for them) and tell her they were found and the boys apologized to her. We came home and had a good long chat about this. Next time we go to the forest we will pull out the leashes and the boys won’t get far. Scary for sure. Pictures are pre-boysbeinglost…sorry they’re blurry, it was too dark in the woods for good photo ops.

Off to speech therapy with Carlos…it’s B’s last day and he’s already saying how sad he is. We got her a little something and Carlos is excited to give it to her.

July 16, 2007

Sometimes things happen in life that show you just how short it can be. On this small island, word got around fast about the local Starbucks barista who died this weekend in a jetski accident. It’s very sad, she was always super friendly to us all and Dee enjoyed talks about her kids (12 and 13) while waiting for the coffee to be made. Please send good thoughts and prayers to this family, who lost an amazing lady.

Dee and I have been working the last couple of months on making our lives more simple but better. We’ve freecycled a LOT of clutter, gone through everyone’s clothes and toys and got rid of what isn’t played with or was outgrown. We’ve also started walking each night with the boys. We’ve been to the Grand Forest (they LOVE the huckleberries) and to Battle Point (where they chased bunnies) so far. They love going on walks and Dee and I get some much needed exercise. Come join us if you want, it’s always an adventure!

July 15, 2007 (pt 2)





The boys are aching to get their new bikes out on the pavement…our grass makes the training wheels not work and the back wheels just spin. Great for a workout, not so great if you are trying to get somewhere. They still look incredibly cute with their helmets and bikes.

We got a new minivan! It’s great, a 2000 Toyota Sienna. It’s Napa Burgundy Pearl with grey interior and in amazing shape. The best part about it is that the boys seats are separate and the fighting has gone down incredibly. I never thought I would be jazzed about getting a minivan but it’s really what our family needs at this point so it’s good. As of now, we are keeping the Volvo as a second car, plus we have Dee’s work truck. We may sell the Volvo at some point, just won’t get too much for it so it may be a better move to keep it. I’ll also try to get a better picture of the van tomorrow….this’ll give you an idea, even with the shadows.

July 15, 2007






Here are some pictures from the big trip to see Thomas the Train!
Hoping to get the minivan today….and maybe do some laundry! Heading to our Sunday morning coffee at the “Pullapart House” as Levi calls it. 🙂
Something funny, the boys were role playing the other day and Carlos says to Levi, “Levi, you be a monster and I’ll be Linda Raquer (his speech therapist)” I cracked up! Who knew the speech therapist would have super powers strong enough to fight a monster. She certainly does in the eyes of Carlos.